Let your actions speak!
Rebuilding trust takes time.
Hi everyone! Happy (Steady) Sunday <3
The last few Sunday meetings have really been filling my cup. I sooo appreciate you all for consistently showing up for yourselves and for each other.
I’ll keep this brief, but I wanted to share one quote that brought me comfort in today’s meeting:
“There are so many people you haven’t met and so many experiences you haven’t had yet.”
Aka - your world isn’t limited to who or what is in it right now. If you’ve been feeling lonely, left out, or like your circle feels small, this isn’t the end of your story. You could meet your future best friend/partner/mentor tomorrow and not even know it yet!
(Thanks for that reminder, Z!!)
— Steph
If you’re new, check out our intro to Steady Sunday here!
💻 This Week’s Meetings
You can always find our full monthly meeting calendar here!
Tuesday, 2/17 — 5:30-6:30 p.m. PT / 8:30-9:30 p.m. ET
Thursday, 2/19 — 5:30-6:30 p.m. PT / 8:30-9:30 p.m. ET
Sunday, 2/22 — 10-11 a.m. PT / 1-2 p.m. ET
Zoom meeting links are sent in our Discord chat:
✨ Meeting Notes
It takes time for people to see a new version of you. When you first stop drinking—or if you’ve had a few starts and stops and feel like people are thinking, “Here we go again”—it’s normal to want the people in your life to notice the change right away. But recognition and rebuilding trust don’t happen overnight. Only you know how much work you’re putting in behind the scenes. You’re the one making the hard choices every day, even when it feels like no one is noticing. Try not to rush the process or look for instant validation. Just keep showing up. Steady actions rebuild trust in a way words can’t <3
As incredible as sobriety is, let’s be real: it’s no cake walk. Choosing not to drink in a world that revolves around alcohol can feel isolating and exhausting. It’s also valid to grieve something that once brought you (temporary) relief and played such a big role in your life. Socializing sober is hard. Navigating change sober is hard. Even being alone with the constant option to drink and repeatedly choosing not to is HARD. If this comes up for you, let yourself feel it. Just try not to stay stuck there. Come back to the moments you feel grateful for your sobriety and remember how much more it adds to your life than it ever takes away. Perspective is everything. ❤️
This week, we reflected on this question:“What advice do you give out but don’t follow yourself?” Maybe you tell friends to give themselves grace when they make a mistake, or that they’re allowed to rest when they’re running on empty, or that they deserve to advocate for themselves when they’re being treated poorly. It’s often so much easier to have compassion for the people we love than it is to extend that same kindness inward. But what would happen if we treated ourselves with the same patience, empathy, and encouragement we give to others?
🏆 Win of the Week
A.P. is one whole month sober!!
Z is 3 weeks sober!!
Congrats! 💕
📎 Resource of the Week
Always cheering you on,
-Steph & Annie
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