Stop trying so hard to enjoy the moment!!!
You might be overthinking it.
Hi everyone! Happy Sunday (and daylight savings to all who observe lol). I’m so excited that the days are slowly getting longer. If you’re someone who struggles with seasonal depression, I hope these little shifts toward Spring are bringing you some peace.
Last week was the definition of a whirlwind! I ran De Soi’s booth at Expo West (aka the “Super Bowl” of trade shows for snack and beverage brands). It was intense and exhausting, but I’m so proud of how it all came together. One of the coolest parts was how many people I got to chat with at our booth who were sober, sober-curious, or looking to cut back on their drinking. Those convos were definitely the highlight amidst the chaos of the week!
That’s all from me from me for now. Hope everyone has a great week :)
— Steph
If you’re new, check out our intro to Steady Sunday here!
💻 This Week’s Meetings
You can always find our full monthly meeting calendar here!
Tuesday, 3/10 — 5:30-6:30 p.m. PT / 8:30-9:30 p.m. ET
Thursday, 3/12 — 5:30-6:30 p.m. PT / 8:30-9:30 p.m. ET
Sunday, 3/15 — 10-11 a.m. PT / 1-2 p.m. ET
Zoom meeting links are sent in our Discord chat:
✨ Meeting Notes
This week, we talked about how challenging it can be to maintain sobriety beyond the big, obvious moments. A few members shared that while they were able to stay sober for a specific event, milestone, or reason, once that “big” thing passed, it felt like there was no longer a finish line to work towards. The ordinary, uneventful days that follow can somehow feel more difficult. But sobriety isn’t just for the exciting, high-stakes situations. It’s built in the quiet, mundane moments too. It teaches us to lean on consistency rather than fleeting bursts of motivation. Consistency in those quiet moments is what transforms sobriety from a goal into a lifestyle.
Similarly, sobriety teaches us to break the habit of chasing instant gratification. Just as it exists in both the eventful and the ordinary days, true recovery asks us to stop seeking a quick fix or temporary escape. Instead, it invites us into slower, deeper work: unlearning old behaviors, sitting with discomfort, and learning what actually serves us long term. That process can feel unglamorous or even uncertain at times, but the rewards are lasting. Stronger relationships, genuine self-esteem, peace of mind, and a life built on integrity are far more fulfilling than any fleeting buzz ever was.
Many of us can relate to how quickly something simple starts to carry a lot of pressure. We want the experience, trip, or night out to be great, meaningful, memorable, relaxing, or all of the above. But when expectations turn into pressure (“this has to be perfect, this has to recharge me, this has to matter”), we can slip out of the present moment and into a “performance of enjoyment”. The more we chase the feelings we think we should be having, the easier it is to miss the experience itself. Sometimes the best thing we can do is take the pressure off. When we stop needing something to feel amazing, we can accept it for what it is (which can let us actually enjoy it more!)
🏆 Win of the Week
N.H. reached 2 months sober!
B.J. quit vaping!
✍️ Journal Prompt
When do you feel most like yourself?
Is it when you’re striving to be the best version of yourself, or when you’re operating from a version you’re not proud of?
If it’s the latter, why do you think that is? What might change if you began to see your best self not as an exception, but as the truest version of who you are, the one most aligned with your values?
Always cheering you on,
-Steph & Annie
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